Extra Credit #17: Being A Parent Is Scary

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Steve Belanger [Twitter] got that call no parent ever wants.  It was his son's school and they said that Steve's three year-old had a seizure.  Last time, on Man School, Steve talked about quitting his job to follow his dreams.

In this Extra Credit we talk about:

  • Being a father of two boys.
  • Getting the worst phone call for a parent and the initial shock.
  • Not calling his wife right away.
  • Having to worry about his oldest son as well.
  • Seeing all the school staff crying and having to wait for the EMT.
  • The entire event happening in fast motion.
  • Finally calling his wife.
  • His son having a febrile seizure.
  • Thinking about what could have happened and bawling like a little girl.
  • Crying in a lottery store.
  • His son now being the picture of health.

Class #68: Divorced Twice with James Ellroy

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James Ellroy is one of America's finest novelists.  Some of his 19 books include: LA Conflidential, White Jazz, American Tabloid, Shakedown, and the Black Dahlia.  His latest novel, Perfidia, comes out in September and is available for pre-order now.  James is a man whose live has full of love and passion -- as discussed on Man School #55 -- but he's also been Twice Divorced.

In this class we talk about:

  • How his second ex-wife is still his best friend and how they are closer now.
  • Going out for dinner after deciding him and his second ex-wife would get divorced.
  • Having relief because he was telling the truth.
  • How divorce is like the sick old family member that dies.
  • Coming back to LA after women divorce him.
  • Knowing that he would be friends with his ex wife.
  • How adultery had nothing to do with his marriage ending.
  • How alimony is a challenge.
  • How the telephone kept the friendship with Helen alive.
  • Keeping in touch with his first ex wife only through the shared dog.
  • Having a hilarious shared custody of a dog.
  • The importance of amicability. 
  • Not owning a television.
  • How, for James, monogamy is the new marriage.
  • His parents divorcing in 1955.
  • Feeling like a freak in general.
  • Having his parents poison his mind against each other.
  • Having models of behavior.
  • Being determined to be happy and successful.
  • Being a bad roommate but a good husband.
  • Being grateful to his first wife for the experience of marriage.
  • Being 66 and just out of his teens.

 

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Class #67: What I've Learned

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Robert Greene [Twitter] is a multiple time New York Times Best Selling Author.  He's best known for his books The 48 Laws of Powers, Mastery, The Art of Seduction, and The 50th Law.  In addition to writing about these various principles, he's also applied them to his own life.

In this class we talk about:

  • Dealing with the publishing world.
  • Terrible marketing campaigns.
  • Writing with a partner.
  • Having his book popular with world leaders, hip hop stars, and in prison.
  • Being contacted by people from all walks of life.
  • Helping an actress with her craft.
  • Siding and working with the underdogs.
  • Helping an NBA player with dealing with their management.
  • Learning about the sharks in the music industry.
  • His new book "The Laws of Human Nature."
  • How humans are charged by emotions.
  • Being a freelancer and being needed.
  • How to keep his publishers dependent on him.
  • Living in Paris fresh out of college and seeing models everyday.
  • Becoming friends with a guy who was awesome at seduction.
  • Being too nice to girls.
  • Seduction being about more than just sex.
  • Meeting 50 Cent -- being intimidated by him & intimidating 50 Cent.
  • The ultimate forms of power.
  • Nearly having a book cancelled.
  • Living what he was writing about.
  • How he would write a book with Bill Clinton.

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Class #65: Losing Friends

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Robert Patrick Lewis [Twitter] is a former US Army Green Beret.  Now a civilian, this ex-Special Forces member has lost many friends in both combat and by suicide. 

In this class we talk about:

  • Never having an exit strategy in life.
  • Getting out of your comfort zone.
  • Being from a military family.
  • Knowing that loss and sacrifice would happen.
  • The Hollywood perspective of what war is like.
  • Being in a post-9/11 military.
  • Being “all testosterone and gunpowder.”
  • Not taking orders well.
  • Having a very romanticized version of Special Forces.
  • Not thinking about losing friends until he actually lost them.
  • Not thinking about the possibility of losing his own life.
  • Adapting to change.
  • Being told the reality of loss.
  • Learning the mission is more important than the men.
  • Keeping in touch via social media.
  • Reality of violence in combat zones.
  • Trying to find humor in all situations.
  • The list of lost friends growing each Memorial Day.
  • Losing his first friend in Baghdad by explosives.
  • Having to wait until after families are notified.
  • Not dealing with memories until he is ready and able to.
  • The constant change of leadership.
  • How combat is pure chaos.
  • Realizing his own mortality and that he has been given a lease on life.
  • Making his life worth while.
  • Losing at least a dozen of his friends.
  • Having friends who committed suicide.

Related Link: Robert Patrick Lewis on Class #24

Extra Credit #16: The Drummer With The Broken Arm

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Tony Thaxton [Twitter] was the long-time drummer for Motion City Soundtrack.  During that great run he got injured, busted his arm, and his career was put on hold.  Wondering how he dealt with that?  Don't miss Tony Thaxton's recent Man School: "Life on The Road."

In this Extra Credit we talk about:

  • Becoming the victim of many Def Leppard jokes.
  • Being injured just by falling (only a little drunk.)
  • Being sent home with just a sling and some pain killers.
  • Never breaking any bones before.
  • An X-Ray error.
  • Being sent to get a MRI.
  • Viewing surgery as a last resort.
  • Breaking his humerus bone that is very hard to heal correctly.
  • Getting ready to record a new record with a broken arm.
  • Having to go through the surgery.
  • Recording the drum parts last for the new record in a different way.
  • Going through physical therapy.
  • Experiencing an arm infection.
  • Missing out on a music video shoot.
  • Having his girlfriend give him IVs.
  • Having a low white blood cell count and missing Thanksgiving.
  • Still being able to tour with Weezer.

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Class #64: The Childhood Truth with Lewis Howes

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Lewis Howes [Twitter] is an athlete, lifestyle entrepreneur, and the host of the great podcast The School of Greatness.  He was a past Man School guest and we talked about that he had to be the best at everything.  On this episode he shares about being sexually abused at the age of five.

In this class we talk about:

  • Having his NCAA football record broken.
  • Feeling free after talking about his sexual abuse.
  • No longer having to always be defensive.
  • Taking everything as a personal attack.
  • Not being able to respond to criticism.
  • Being ashamed of his childhood abuse.
  • Receiving overwhelming love and compassion from his family and friends.
  • Making a decision to approach life from a place of love.
  • Being abused by his babysitter's son at 5.
  • Not thinking anything about his abuse until he was 12.
  • Having suicidal thoughts.
  • Being grateful of his progress.
  • Being especially scared to tell his mom.
  • Talking about it in his podcast and getting a positive response.
  • Allowing others to share their experience with him.
  • Knowing that others felt the same fear of opening up about their experiences.
  • Being vulnerable.
  • Knowing how to start talking about his past abuse.
  • Striving to give his best on everything.
  • His evolved take on competition and greatness. 

Related Link: Lewis Howes shares his secret on his podcast

 

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Class #63: My International Marriage

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Alan Cox was on the TLC reality show 90 Day Fiance which featured the engagement and marriage to his Brazilian bride Kirlyam.  There international story one not to miss (whether or not you saw the show.)

In this class we talk about:

  • Having a unique romance.
  • How many people actually have international relationships.
  • Not meeting his Brazilian wife online.
  • Being a Mormon missionary.
  • Going to Brazil for his mission assignment.
  • Not being able to date while being a missionary.
  • The gorgeous, exotic, and friendly women of Brazil.
  • Meeting his wife but not immediately dating her.
  • Visiting Brazil after being a missionary.
  • Reconnecting with his now-wife via social media.  
  • Making sure that she was his true eternal companion.
  • Not being able to ignore romantic feelings.
  • Thinking that it was illogical to be in this long-distance relationship.
  • Having supportive family and friends.
  • The troubles of getting a K1 fiance visa.
  • Dating for four months before he knew he wanted to marry her.
  • Planning a proposal that she knew was coming.
  • Having a K1 fiancé visa that is only good for 90 days.
  • Living in the United States vs. Brazil.
  • Being found by TLC for the reality show “90 Day Fiance.”
  • Being followed by cameras and microphones for three months.
  • Training himself to ignore the cameras.
  • Planning a wedding in only one month.
  • Having to wait a long time for visas to go through.
  • The pressure of trying to make his wife feel at home.
  • Not being nervous at his wedding.
  • Doing the little things to make his relationship work and keep the spark alive.

 

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